Episode 214: Learning to Ask for What You Want with Paul Quinn
December 17, 2025
Why is it often easier to know what we don’t want than to ask for what we do?
In this episode, I’m joined by Paul Quinn, author of The Big Ask. Paul began his career as an actor before moving into corporate training and writing, where he became fascinated by the moments that spark real change.
Today, we explore how identity, fear, and unspoken rules shape the choices we make. Paul also shares stories that show how a single, well-timed question can open doors we didn’t know were there.
You’ll hear about:
- How asking the right questions can help you reconnect with what you actually want
- Why redefining identity after work can feel so disorienting
- The trap of focusing on what we don’t want (instead of naming what we do)
- How fear and perfectionism can limit what you’re willing to try
- A simple question that can shift how we imagine what comes next
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About Paul:
Paul Quinn is the author of the recently released book, The Big Ask: Unlock the Possibilities in Your Work, Life & Dreams with Courageous Requests, featuring exclusive stories from more than 80 achievers who successfully “asked big.” Paul is a former corporate trainer and marketing writer whose clients included Fortune 100 and 500 Companies.
