We devote a lifetime of focus on mastery, accumulation, success and defining your place in the world. Then the shift comes to the next chapter, and we’re left without the tools or experience necessary to change lanes.
No matter how much time we spend thinking about life after our careers end, the transition from one stage to the next requires time, thought and experimentation to complete the shift.
There is no set timetable, nor is there a step-by-step guidebook. You can’t Google the answer; it needs to come from within you. BUT you can take some steps to make the transition less perilous:
- Your social infrastructure is important! Having people you can relate to and share your thoughts, feelings and experiences with matters. If this is an area of concern, consider ways to boost your cadre of connections.
- Attend to your mental and physical health. The stories of depression, anxiety and other concerns are plentiful for those struggling. GET HELP if you are. The only shame is in not doing whatever is necessary.
- Create a wish list that contains areas for exploration and investigation. Remember, these are not commitments but areas that might possibly light you up.
- Set a goal for physical activity. It doesn’t matter what your jam is; just do it. From bowling to karate or strength training to cycling, whatever makes your brain and body happy is a must.
- Laughter is key. Whatever spurs laughter is a good medicine. Whether it’s watching comedy clips on TV, YouTube or, like my friend Marty, taking a class in stand up comedy…find ways to bring laughter into your life.
- Random Acts of Kindness. Yeah, you’ve heard this one before. But if you haven’t tried it, I urge you to focus your thoughts and actions on how you can improve the lives of others, even in tiny ways.
As you move into the next phase of life, be aware that shifting to a new lane is not always easy. It takes practice and determination. Changing lifelong habits and beliefs also takes time and patience. In the process, remember the first commandment of transition: Do Not Beateth Thyself Up.
And for goodness’ sake, put on your seat belt!
