Over the last few weeks, I have spoken with several men who are dealing with health situations. One of them is my mentor and dear friend, Art. He once “rescued” me from my life as an accountant and ushered me into the world of financial planning. It’s been almost a year since we last spoke, but not for my lack of trying.
We finally connected this week, and Art opened up about his health challenges over the last year. He’s been through three hospital stays from pneumonia, which left him at a scant 125 lbs. On top of this, he’s suffered for years from terrible nerve pain that has greatly impacted his mobility. Despite these hardships, he’s courageously moved through these issues and has even resumed mentoring several young advisors.
During our conversation, I suggested having lunch, with the caveat that he can cancel at any time, even at the last minute if he wasn’t feeling up to it. His response took me by surprise. He expressed his appreciation, but also shared that many of his “friends” got angry if he cancelled on short notice. I was both shocked and disappointed to hear that.
I don’t understand people who would get upset in light of health challenges!
Why would they not immediately defer to the comfort of the one suffering?
What motivates their ire? Are they so self-important that they make it about them? Where’s the compassion?
When it comes to those who are in pain, ill-health, distress, or otherwise challenged, let compassion for others be your guide. After all, it’s what we all want from others.
