Welcome to the X.

X as in the unique mix of decisions and experiences that will bring you meaning and joy in your next chapter. Think practical tools, a little inspiration and more than a few stories of those who’ve jumped the hurdle.
Meaning
January 1, 2023

New Year’s Resolutions

I’m not a fan of New Year’s resolutions but I don’t judge those who make them. For me, it can either be a big gain or a big loss; simply too much for me to embrace. What I prefer to do each year is examine…
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Meaning
December 31, 2022

A Burr In Your Sock

I have no idea what brought back the recollection of being a youngster trekking through the nearby woods.  But I remember walking home with the insistent pangs of burrs sticking to my socks, pants, and shirt. As much as I tried to remove them, another…
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Meaning
September 7, 2022

A New Offering

I am proud and excited to announce my new coaching program designed for those wanting to go deeper in preparing for and working through the transition period of Chapter X. The website (www.michaelfkay.com) has been updated to include information on the coaching program. If you…
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Health
August 9, 2022

Rebounding

I hit a low.  Maybe it was the impact of being hit with some weird virus and the subsequent time of physical weakness and lack of stamina, but I hit a low both mentally and physically. My trumpet practice is off; my exercise schedule is…
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Meaning
July 24, 2022

Capacity

Every container has a certain capacity. A quart of milk cannot reside in a pint container. A tank full of gasoline reaches its capacity when the pump shuts down—and those last few drops are unable to find a home unless it’s on the ground. I’ve…
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Meaning
July 5, 2022

A Quote that Blew My Mind

I recently subscribed to The Daily Stoic after my daughter-in-law brought it to my attention.  Today’s quote stopped me in my tracks. “Think of the life you have lived until now as over and, as a dead man, see what’s left as a bonus and…
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Meaning
July 3, 2022

Reflection and Gratitude

My renewed involvement in music has been revelatory in many ways. I think about my life in music many years ago. It was all about striving to be the “best” and while I loved performing, it was a mixed bag of anxiety and pressure.  My…
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Meaning
July 2, 2022

Socialization

During our recent Chapter X Zoom get-together, we were joined by Dr. David Bernstein, a retired gerontologist, author and new participant in our community. He talked about the importance of socialization as a means of navigating a full, healthy and meaningful next chapter. Harry Scheyer…
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