I don’t know why, but there was no part of me that saw the election turning out the way it did. I’m not going to use this space to discuss politics, because we all have our own reasons, beliefs, and perspectives. Instead, I want to talk about trauma—maybe because it’s an inevitable part of life, or maybe because I’m venting my feelings.
What I’ve noticed is that we all process trauma differently. Some need to talk, scream, vent, harangue (no judgments here), while others, like me, go dark. I need time to process and allow my body and mind to find a place of comfort. I focus on what I can control, though I keep reminding myself that the areas (where I actually have control) are microscopic.
I’ve noticed this pattern in myself when dealing with death, illness, or diametric disagreements with others. Finding solace in life is deeply personal, and recognizing what you need is crucial to healing. We spent the past few days in the quiet of the Berkshires. The clear blue skies, swaying trees, and starry, brisk nights have helped a bit.
Eventually, we all face trauma. The question is whether we recognize it and seek healing. Fear, dread, and other mind-generated feelings don’t help. “What if” doesn’t help. Peace, equanimity, and a clear sense for what we need is an appropriate goal.
The question is, how do we express these needs for ourselves and others?
Without minimizing the impact of trauma, understanding ourselves is essential to finding our path to healing.
How do you deal with trauma? What helps you?
