Admitting one’s flaws is rarely comfortable.
But one of the goals of this project/community/movement is to get out of the comfort zone and live with the discomfort. After all, discomfort isn’t fatal.
So here I go…another venture into my ‘discomfort zone.’ I admit that one of my flaws is not asking for help, support or assistance. I learned to be independent pretty early and asking for help—even from my wife—is difficult.
It’s not a trait of which I am proud. I know that people feel valued when their assistance, advice or opinion is sought. But my default has always been, “I don’t want to bother them or intrude on their busy lives.”
Yes, it’s mostly stupid and I admit that when I am asked for help, I leap at the opportunity and yes, I feel valued. So I am denying others the chance to feel that way. I am not proud of that and I am trying to do better.
And YES, I feel uncomfortable that I have shared it with you. But I’ll get over it and I hope you have the courage and care to remind me if I am acting otherwise.
And YES, I feel ok and safe to have shared it with my friends. Any thoughts? Feel free…
