I’m not a fan of New Year’s resolutions but I don’t judge those who make them. For me, it can either be a big gain or a big loss; simply too much for me to embrace. What I prefer to do each year is examine what I wish to improve—and what I wish to eliminate from my life.
For example, last year I decided to stop indulging those who suck my energy without adding anything back. It was not an easy decision, because I typically try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
But there were a few people who definitely left me sapped of energy and needed to be stricken from my life. It might sound harsh, but in the effort to provide more of myself to those who engage in a mutually beneficial relationship, I had to do so. I give myself a strong B+.
Another decision I made last year was to try to be less self-critical. To be honest, I give myself a strong C, but it’s better than an F. While it’s been such a challenge to change a lifetime of habits, making incremental adjustments has helped.
Think about what changes or improvements you wish to make and set yourself up for success by setting reasonable expectations and small meaningful steps. Examine what changes you wish to make—and how you might approach it on an incremental basis.
For example, if you wish to improve your fitness and have the ability to do 50 floor pushups (at one time), you probably need to start with a smaller goal based on your current fitness level. Start with doing 5 using the wall. Go slow and set reasonably attainable measurable goals.
Take time to think about what’s really important to you and build a game plan that will help you get there. Beating yourself up and judging yourself harshly is not a strategy for success.
When I embarked on learning the Tiny Habits® Coaching method, I learned ways to break down actions into small meaningful bits. It is truly helpful in making positive changes without the pain.
If you have questions about this, feel free to ask.
Meanwhile, I wish you and those you love a happy, healthy new year!
