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Chapter X isn’t a solo affair for those who are married or partnered. With these transitions, you may be navigating life changes that have been dormant for years, which can unexpectedly strain your relationship. Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist in Vermont who has been…

I cringe when others ask whether I am “staying busy.” My reaction is first to take a breath because otherwise, I might just say something that might be off-putting to the questioner. (Yes, I have learned restraint in my “old age.”) Staying busy is not,…

As drivers, we're told to avoid potholes on the road. While this is no easy task in New Jersey, I am starting to see this advice in another light…. I remember my parting words to my daughter when she went off to college. “Don’t make…

Tom Glaser had his dream job as a Senior Psychologist for seven years. It was a role so fulfilling that it made him excited to get out of bed in the morning. While he planned to stay in that job until retirement, Tom reached a…

James Allen, the British philosophical writer, wrote:   “Circumstances do not make the man, they reveal him.”   Stephen Covey wrote about ‘choice’:   “Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions.” I have been thinking about these two quotes and how…

The older we get, the more afraid we are to try and learn new things. Why is it harder to break out of our comfort zone in retirement?  When you say goodbye to your career, you leave behind decades of mastery to become a novice…

I don’t know about you, but my brain produces a constant stream of questions. Yes, sometimes it’s exhausting. I ask myself questions like:           Am I doing enough to help my family?           How am I helping…

I recently attended a conference of the Financial Life Planning community in Portland. While I had a long flight, including the red-eye home, it was a wonderful experience. During the two-day meeting, the word “flourish” was used and it caught my attention. In fact, it…